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That's a weird conclusion for you to arrive at from the possibly innocent (or possibly mistranslated idiomatic) statement from Mr Nusse. "You want a computer noteook I'll give you a notebook!" could easily be interpreted as spiteful and violently ironic if seen through a particular filter. However, when my son asked for cookies one rainy Sunday when he was about 3, I said, "You want cookies? I'll give you cookies!" We got out the sugar and flour, the mixer and cutters, and we made cookies. I don't think he recalls that event at all but there is a chance he remembers it as fondly as I do.

 

Bogiesan, with all due respect, Ted deserves better than to be told his reaction is "weird." You did not grow up as Ted, you do not walk in his shoes, and you are not in a position to know what emotional memory or memories were triggered in him. As I said to Ted, I too read the comment as benign, but for Ted it hit a button. As a survivor of childhood trauma with plenty of my own buttons, I urge you to try to understand Ted's reaction rather than deny his feelings and label them as "weird."

 

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That's a weird conclusion for you to arrive at from the possibly innocent (or possibly mistranslated idiomatic) statement from Mr Nusse. "You want a computer noteook I'll give you a notebook!" could easily be interpreted as spiteful and violently ironic if seen through a particular filter. However, when my son asked for cookies one rainy Sunday when he was about 3, I said, "You want cookies? I'll give you cookies!" We got out the sugar and flour, the mixer and cutters, and we made cookies. I don't think he recalls that event at all but there is a chance he remembers it as fondly as I do.

Weird, strange, odd, crazy! Sure. It really triggered a strong reaction from me that was not really required by the statement. What I find is stranger is that I really didn't realize how strongly I had reacted until it had been posted long enough that my comment is going to stay around for a long time.

 

For anyone who was offended by my post, I apologize for that, I didn't mean to do so. M. Nusse, please accept my apologies for any insult that my comment may have made. I did not intend to cast aspersions on you.

 

Let's get back to the "webbie" name. That's a much more interesting topic

To hold a pen is to be at war. - Voltaire
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