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One of the things I love about tangible written correspondence is how slow it is. Writing, waiting, and getting to know someone over time. I tend to not include internet blogs, websites, or handles that lead to more of 'me' or my interests. I mean, otherwise just be an online mouse-pal. Social media is the opposite. It gives you buckets of information all at once, and visuals galore. There is no waiting or learning about someone gradually. FB, leads to Twitter, to Instagram, to Pinterest, and on and on. Handles lead to Google searches and before you know it, in 15 minutes you make snappy judgements without putting any of the effort that writing letters over times takes. Don't get me wrong, it has its uses and benefits. There ARE things I want to look up quickly to make judgement calls on. But when it comes to signing on to correspond via letter, I tend not to ask my correspondents for online info and I don't give any either. I prefer to know someone on a more real level instead of an online persona, and vise versa. Many people can be good friends despite the things they believe/have/do that are different from us. To know all those up front causes us to draw back. Human nature. So I don't want others or myself to be tempted to do that prematurely. Does anyone else keep their paper and virtual friendships separate for this reason?