I've lent out pens a couple of times to folks, but generally watched them like a hawk the entire time. One friend needed to write a quick note at dinner a while back, so she got handed my Parker 45. I figured that she was relatively clueful in general (plus, a very good mutual friend of ours does a lot of calligraphy and illumination, so Pam would probably at least know which way to hold the thing.
And just last week I actually trusted my husband (who routinely makes joking motions about jamming the nib into tables -- just because he knows it will annoy me) with a pen, so he could sign a car registration renewal form (I had filled out all the rest of the form but then realized that only his name was on it so I couldn't sign it). Granted, it was a Noodler's Flex Piston Creaper (filled the time with Noodler's 54th Massachusetts, so I thought it would be better to have the same ink on the signature). And he managed not to bork up the nib. Which is good, because if he borks up the EF nib on the red Estie which is his belated birthday present -- or leaves the cap off/loses the cap and the pen dries out -- I'm reclaiming (er, *liberating*, yeah, that's the word) it (it's a red J, after all... ).
And like some other people have said: I have a number of vintage pens and I've never had a problem with the nib being molded to the previous owners' style of writing (they might not write for *other* reasons... but not that).
But I am always pretty watchful. And there *have* been times where I just pretend I didn't hear the request for a pen -- if I don't completely trust how the person will hold it.....
OTOH -- I've borked nibs all on my lonesome (which is why I have an extra nib and feed for a Noodler's Konrad -- got the blind cap stuck inside the cap and then couldn't figure out why the cap wouldn't screw back on)! The same thing almost happened over the weekend with a different Konrad, but I remembered what had happened that other time, so I didn't force the issue -- just waited till I got back home and unscrewed the part of the cap holding on the clip, then pushed a wooden knitting needle through the hold to dislodge the blind cap....
Ruth Morrisson aka inkstainedruth
edited for typos
Edited by inkstainedruth, 29 August 2013 - 15:47.
"It's very nice, but frankly, when I signed that list for a P-51, what I had in mind was a fountain pen."