Thanks for all the comments, especially KCat's who reminded us that paper is a very important factor, if not the most important.
After reading her post, I used a few different papers to test the inked pens I had with me. I even found an old Clairfontaine notepad I had lying in my office. Seeing the very drammatic differences paper made, I even inked my Duofold Centennial last night and brought it to work to write on the same papers. What do you know, even that thick nibbed ink gusher puts down a very reasonable mediumish line on many papers, including on Clairfontaine's. It is not as though wasn't aware of these differences, but it was the first time I did a systematic comparison with my newer pens and with more than just two types of paper.
I think I need to put some signs saying "no fine nibs allowed."

I am sure there are some exceptions, but I have a feeling more often than not, it is the paper that makes the line look thicker then expected.