QUOTE(spencerfan @ Jan 17 2008, 08:14 AM) [snapback]481238[/snapback]
American formal tradition distinguishes between invitations to churches and invitations to other venues by using the phrase "honor of your presence" in the former and "pleasure of your company" in the later case. Hopefully, a handwritten invitation will have a friendlier feel than an engraved one, despite the stiff wording; otherwise, my effort will be in vain..
1. I'm interested in the distinction you observed. I've noticed it, but never picked up on the context. Did you come across a reference observing the two separate practices?
2. I don't know about "friendlier," but a handwritten invitation will seem much more thoughtful, authentic, interesting. Kudos to you for taking the time. Your daughter must be (or, when she's older, will be) very pleased and grateful.
3. FWIW, since you've probably already started the process, I prefer the second wording choice (request the honor of their presence, not request the honor of the presence of them).